opting out
why do people worship opting out like it's some inviolable right to being human or something.
can you imagine animals in an ecosystem "opting out"? ..what..!?
can you imagine a love so deep, a reliance and trust like the love of animals?
what does "being able to leave" bring to a life...
remember an old friend's preaching of consent, imagining a world where everyone can consent
can opt out
where everyone knows everyone's histories of violence
where if you hurt someone through neglect by "prioritizing your own consent" and leaving them high and dry when they most need help, THEN ISN'T THAT VIOLENCE JUSTIFIED?
(they* thought i was being Horrifically Corrupted and was abusing my poor poor ex (how DARE i speak to him in that tone?! and why the weird sleeping arrangements?) but refused to engage with any of the words i said.)
i remember i said their dream of consent imagines that AT THE CORE people are not harmful, that if you peel back and heal all the surface violence, there is some inviolate core, some beautiful gem that is good and not bad.
HOW FOOLISH.
WOULD YOU DARE SPEAK OF ANY ANIMAL AS SUCH A SAINT?
A CAT IS AN OBLIGATE CARNIVORE. IS IT EVIL? IS IT GOOD?
is its violence justified? unjust?
SUCH NONSENSE!
it is a cat.
Anyway they spoke some words to disarm me, acknowledge my perspective (BUT WHAT I DIDN'T SEE AT THE TIME was their holy judgment. "Ah i see... it's a heretic. Best to treat them kindly, I can save them maybe in time.. But not if i dont feel like it")
By their own standard of consent, they violated mine.
By MY standards they were a dick.
But they helped me move!