manipulation
the thing is, i know my wife is "manipulative" but the difference is I TRUST HIM WITH MY LIFE AND MY HEART
and i know what he wants the most is to be loved and understood and cherished
and so i know any manipulation is for that purpose.
and i want to love and understand and cherish him!
so it works out 😌
i will not moralize the violence of manipulation, it is neither inherently good nor evil.
Problem is it can be hard to tell what's going on, what i have to do, or what i have to learn...